Category Archives: Life

College Friend With Benefits

Ok, not in that way, but it has been a while since my golf clubs and I got it on!  We’ve “talked” a couple of times since high school and college when we were together a lot, but it had been almost two years since we really had any action.  Well, I decided to get in touch with my old friend.  I decided to be safe and make sure it was still clean and went out for a date yesterday.  Golf was something I did regularly freshman year and half of my sophomore year before deciding it was costing me too much to be a walk-on on a college team that wasn’t very good to begin with.  And by “costing too much” I mean that I couldn’t work, party, or frat it up as much.  ** I still wonder sometimes about what would have happened if I had gone to one of the schools that was going to give me a scholarship but not play on their tournament team until my junior year. **

Anyway, I decided to start slow with my old FWB and just catch up a little and get to know each other again.  Who knows, maybe this time it will be something that is a long-term relationship.  I took my clubs to the driving range right down the street (you know, do the whole “local” thing) and it was obvious we both have changed.  My first joke to lighten the mood (hitting a driver without warming up) didn’t fly so well (topped it into the ground).  We always had a complicated relationship (golf seemed to have daddy issues) but there was never any real drama with golf.

Everything came together after my nerves calmed down.  There were many times that we clicked, but there were also those times that my jokes didn’t go over as well as they did in my head.  I would even say that there is a shot for a second date after remembering some things about golf from our past relationship (like where my hands were allowed and to follow through on my promises/swing).  Who knows, maybe we will play a full 18 and start looking at rings.  Maybe I should hold off on that talk until I actually take the putter out of the bag … if ya know what I mean!


The Soundtrack of My Life – Volume 1

So technically this is not a new blog “entry” but it is something I wanted to share with everyone again now that I have started Tones of Yo.  I have added more detail in this post than what I initially had when I posted this as a Facebook note almost two years ago.

The purpose of this exercise is to create a soundtrack that explains your life and there are two views on how it can be created.  One way to go about this endeavor (and I do mean endeavor because it is a tough task) is to pick songs that meant a lot to you at different pivotal points in your life.  The other way to start this project, and the way I chose to use, is to view yourself from another person’s perspective and create the soundtrack based on what they would play during the movie about your life.  I highly recommend all music lovers to try this at some point.

I threw my iPod on shuffle and listened to every song that was on it at the time when I started to think about what songs I wanted on my soundtrack.  The task can get tedious when you have 11,000+ songs, so there is no way that I got through every song (side note: I am now over 15,000).  However, I was unemployed at the time and making the Nashville-Memphis-Nashville trek at least once every two weeks so I did make it through a good bit.  I gave every song a chance by listening to it for at least one minute before skipping to the next song and I actually discovered some new songs and artists that I might have normally skipped if I did not try this project.  I remember my initial list of songs came to about 35 and I had to narrow down from there. You are probably tired of reading my narrative by now, so I will get on to the music.  A post on why each song made the cut will come soon.


  • No more than 20 songs
  • Must fit on one disc


1. Blind Melon – “No Rain”

2. Cary Brothers – “Blue Eyes”

3. The Killers – “Glamorous Indie Rock and Roll”

4. Modest Mouse – “The World at Large”

5. Aerosmith – “Dream On”

6. The Doors – “Break On Through (To The Other Side)”

7. Jeremy Kay – “Have It All”

8. The Beatles – “In My Life”

9. Bill Withers – “Lean On Me”

10. Cake – “Friend is a Four Letter Word”

11. Dashboard Confessional – “The Places You Have Come to Fear The Most”

12. Survivor – “Eye of the Tiger”

13. Gov’t Mule – “I’ll Be The One”

14. The Beach Boys – “When I Grow Up (To Be a Man)”

15. Ben E. King – “Stand By Me”

16. The Weepies – “Can’t Go Back Now”

17. The Meters – “Mardi Gras Mambo”

18. Bobby McFerrin – “Don’t Worry Be Happy”

19. Wade Yohanek – “Adam”

20. Semisonic – “Closing Time”

Bonus Track (because “Adam” is not recorded anywhere): Ben Harper – “Glory & Consequence”